Black and white or grey?

by Emma

I was pondering the concept of ‘black and white’ thinking. I was also wondering how guilty we all are of doing this.

You deny it? Yes I do also, however when you explore a situation, then I think we have to hold our hands up to it and take a step back.

So how do we define this? Simply. Black and white thinking is considering only two alternative states. Disastrous and euthoric. It is non-negotiable and becomes a stubborn cognition. We hold high expectations on our views and believe that if it does not show positive, then it will be completely the opposite.

Consider this in our jobs, our relationships, in our family.

Black and white thinking can prove unhealthy. It can affect mood. It can affect self-esteem and confidence.

We simply need to look at our own self development and our own self-awareness. Imagine we are criticised at work. Imagine our partner finds fault in us. Imagine our family point out our negatives.

How do we react? How do we feel?

Do we always use healthy cognitive functioning and decipher these as opportunities, a chance to develop ourselves and grow? Or do we let our fixated and unreasonable thinking lead us, and feel emotionally negative as a response?

We can consider our response in any given situation. If we are late for work then this becomes a catastrophe. We take things personally. We feel offensive at situations and become extremist.
Sometimes a negative is simply a tarnished positive and sometimes life is not as simple as left or right. Right and wrong. Yes and no.

There can be a grey area. A spectrum with which to fit. We simply need to remain open minded, dimensional, and creative in mindset.

Black and white can be dull anyhow. Think in colour.

The mind of a deep thinker…or complete rubbish…it is all down to interpretation and perception…