Parallel Functioning

by Emma

This topic intrigues me. The behaviour we emit in regards to our social perspective. In regards to the people who are involved in our lives.

Do we change and evolve ourselves to fluently ‘match’ the people we are with, or do we remain true to our inner self and subconsciously expect they will modify to suit?

Alternatively can we remain true to ourselves and perceptions yet STILL forcify a united consequence? It is certainly a perplexing conundrum.

To remain parallel and comprehensive in both perspective and attitude is indeed difficult when faced with diversity and at times, discrepant emotion.

If we are to modify our own selves to enable an appropriate and satisfactory social functioning, then is this an individual sacrifice to our truth or is this actually a development of our psyche.

I think that we all can recall times where we have subdued our raw individualism to ‘fit’ within a social element. Relationships are prime examples.

When we meet a potential partner, we follow the instinct and illusionary concept that to create harmony, we need to become their ‘perfect’ one. We decide to become interested in things which they prefer. Things, which if we remain honest with ourselves, we have never been stimulated by. We alter our mindset, our dress, our vocabulary. Surely if we fully had a deep rooted and harmonious connection, we would not need to externally and conciously alter ourselves? Is this parallel functioning by default or simply a concious decision to appease.

There are people we meet who we connect with deeply. These don’t require personality changes as our differences create an appetising recipe and added flavour. The diversity is indeed exquisite. We subconsciously develop due to primal instinct rather than being led by our own, or others expectation.

So the ideation of parallel functioning certainly encourages deeper exploration.

In our jobs, are we fully there or is it another face we show? When are we truthful, open and honest with others. When are we with ourselves?

True and pure happiness is only created if we remain unbiased and content with who we are and who we can be.

A cliché quote I find relatable:

‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression, make sure you are not in fact surrounding yourselves with ass holes’.

Ironic. Diverse. Thought provoking.

The mind of a deep thinker…or complete rubbish…it is all down to interpretation and perception…