Emotional investment or negative transaction?
by Emma
A bit of deepness for the day…
How much do we invest in things and people and how much do we see in our returns?
When we pay for goods with our money, we expect to see material evidence of this transaction or indeed a memorable experience to file away. But what if we made a transaction and checked our account to see a big fat zero?
I’m sure many of us would be seeking clarification and feeling rather cheated.
Yet, we invest in everything in life to varied degrees and we don’t always receive the booty.
How many times have you emotionally invested and been left with a big bag of nothing and perceived injustice?
But we continue to do this.
Why?
Emotional investment is indeed a gamble. We automatically invest in our families and reap the benefits from support mechanisms and security but what about when we invest in friendship and relationships?
What do we do if the cheque continues to bounce??
Do we feel justified in seeking clarification and interest on our emotional transaction? Is it a weakness or a strength to expect a credit statement? To expect to see our emotional interest rates increasing?
Personally I seek this from my significant other. I expect my balance to remain in credit and I believe that this theory works both ways. I do expect a return in friendships and to see a mutual healthy transaction taking place. We attend our jobs and expect a salary in return. We invest our time in our passions and reap the positive emotions. We gain knowledge and gain personal achievement and development. So are we allowing ourselves to be ‘ripped off’?
Self-awareness and integrity is an important part of sustaining a good ‘credit’ history. To enable a healthy profit, we also need to remain vigilant and consider the ratio of risk to healthy investment. Financially… we do. Emotionally and psychologically we often don’t.
How many times do we support friends and give to others only to feel unappreciated and disappointed?
A satisfactory transaction is a two way process and we need to keep our expectations high. Who wants faulty and non – returnable goods? If we expect less, surely we will receive less.
The link to our psyche is surprising yet logical. Our psychological interpretation impacts on our emotional stance and how we perceive our external world. This affects the value we put onto ourselves.
Make every transaction worthwhile… or simply ask for a refund.
The mind of a deep thinker…or complete rubbish…it is all down to interpretation and perception…
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Indeed 🙂
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Well said indeed. I love finding article gems like this one. The investments we make can be considerable especially when the choices are difficult in regards to what and who we choose to surround ourselves with. Anything that becomes a one way process is somewhat akin to a parasitic scenario where one or more parties disrupt the concept of a mutually beneficial symbiotic relationship. It’s kind of like the positive thinking model where we benefit by building a network of friends who are at or have surpassed our level of growth/understanding such that we always seek to raise the bar. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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Definitely a thought provoking concept. I feel we need to challenge ourselves to first find our own tolerance and limit, to further enable a healthy balance. Self-actualisation is indeed paramount in achieving our personal identified status. We are too easily conditioned to appreciate our own worth and our expectations are based on media sensationalism rather than the raw instinct of our being. To love oneself is to offer a high standard of love and appreciation to another 🙂 thank you for your comment
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Absolutely! When we understand our own motivations, we are better prepared to interact with others in the healthy way you’ve mentioned. I’m always happy to join in on interesting conversations and topics like the one you’ve initiated here. 🙂
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Thank you 🙂 I simply write what I feel and psychological processes and human response is amazing. A simple thought process can change the path you take. The behavioural cycle is highlighted greatly within these pondering topics. It certainly begs question on who lays at fault. 🙂
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Good question. Dare I say perhaps fault lays on all of us. Then again, what do I know? 🙂 Not much considering how expansive society is. It feels to me like we are guilty of being confused by conflicting ideals and sometimes simply by the need to survive using the tools we understand. 🙂 Expanding the toolkit certainly helps though and that’s part of the value of deep introspection such as you’re doing here. Very cool indeed.
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True talk!!
Media sensationalism has really stolen the youths innocency… the young ones totally concentrate perfecting what would woow others and forgetting to build their own raw abilities life time trade marks…
Love the way your brain works Hun
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Thank you 🙂 sometimes we have to simply say it like it is haha.
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beautiful!
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I really enjoyed this. You presented lots of food for thought, and I found myself in agreement. I only time I perceive that there could be a problem is when one becomes too prideful as a result of encouraging words or expects more than another has to give. Those of us who are Christians are implored in Scripture to keep one another lifted up, and as a teacher I know that everybody needs encouraging words and gestures. Thanks for sharing this. Hugs, N ❤
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I think self-awareness id indeed important in remaining aware of the health of our relationships. Unfortunately not everybody has our morals and values. It is a fine balance between mutual investment and taking for granted at times. We are all special and all deserve to be cherished and appreciated for our individual merits 🙂
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Just do me a favor and keep writing such tracnhent analyses, OK?
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I once stayed in a Travel Lodge style hotel in a small village in the mountains around Burgos in Northern Spain (en route to Santander), was sat in the bar that evening having a beer and a sandwich when a huge group of local men walked in all with shotguns slung over their shoulders, it was a bit off-putting but again it was a hunting party just returned from the mountains, tends to make you think the worst when you’re in The Basque region tho8&hg#u230;
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Damn, I wish I could think of soethming smart like that!
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